"Anything less than mad, passionate, extraordinary love is a waste of your time." That's one ofmy favorite quotes from the romantic comedy, "Dream for an Insomniac."
I've always been a hopeless romantic. I'd watch countless romantic movies in high school andhope that someday I too would have what I was seeing on the big screen. I knew that thesewere just movies, but they always gave me hope that one day someone would love me just aspassionately.
I’ve been asked the question in the past if I ever felt like my disability might prevent me fromfinding love and getting married?
My answer was always plain and simple, no I never did. I did however think that my princecharming would have to be one of very special qualities. After all, there are differences thatcome with dating/marrying me.
I was always the girl growing up with more guy friends than girl friends. Some of the mostpopular guys in my high school I would spend countless hours on the phone with after school orchatting it up in the halls as they would walk with me to class. I watched as they would gothrough one girlfriend after another and I seemed to be their sounding board.
This might sound not so fun to you right? Watching guys that you have a crush on date yourfriends or classmates all the while inside you secretly wish they were dating you.
Well, for me it was a double edge sword. Ya, there were times that I wanted to be those girls, butwhen all was said and done, these guys were done with them and still very involved in mylife. . .I win.
I knew that at the high school age, most (not all) guys (or girls for that matter) are not at thematurity level to date someone who is "different". They are not ready for the questions or staresor differences dating a person with a disability comes with.
For me, my first true boyfriend came in my second year of college. He was a true catch! Veryattractive, a baseball player for his college and just an all around sweet guy. We were togetherabout a year, and then due to distance we decided things were better for us to just be friends.
After that the world of dating seemed to open up for me. I had numerous guys ask me out ondates throughout my college career, and I seemed to be living the "normal" dating lifestyle.Suddenly the fact that I was in a wheelchair did not matter anymore.
As mature as a person may be when it comes to dating/marrying a person with a disability, I amno dummy. I know there has to be a willingness to take on the added responsibilities that goalong with it. For instance, my husband has to help me in and out of bed, get dressed, shower,
etc. Marrying me is not like marrying someone else and I realize even a guy that might be totallyin to me may not be ready or able or willing to take on all of me; and I was always OK with that.I got it.
Even with that in mind, I NEVER thought I would not find my true love and one day getmarried. Perhaps it was my upbringing that was full of love and acceptance. Perhaps it is myattitude towards my situation; that I am no different than anyone else. I just knew that therewould be someone out there for me, and it didn't have to be another disabled person. I wasdeserving of someone's love and when the right person came along, I would have my romanticmovie. Now five years in to marriage, I'd say we're off to a box office hit wouldn't you?!